Child Mindset Interview

When we decided to do a child mindset interview we asked a range of parents to ask their children these questions to see how they feel about their mindset. This was to see what the most common answers were and to find out how children feel about themselves, their confidence and feelings.

 

Child age 4, female

Q: How confident do you feel?

A: What’s confident? (I explain what it is) and she says yes.

Q: What do you do when you’re feeling sad? 

A: Tell the teacher, tell Mummy or my friends.

Q: How do you feel when you find something hard?  

A: Good, because I like doing hard things. 

Q: Say out loud “I can achieve anything.” How did that make you feel? 

A: Happy.

 

Child aged 5, female

Q: How confident do you feel? I don’t know. 

A: What do you do when you’re feeling sad? Tell teacher or my mummy or daddy.

Q: How do you feel when you find something hard?

A: Confident that i might be able to do it if i keep trying.

Q: Say out loud “I can achieve anything.” How did that make you feel?

A: Happy.

 

Child aged 7, male

Q: How confident do you feel? 

A: Really confident.

Q: What do you do when you’re feeling sad? 

A: Tell the teacher or Mummy or Daddy.

Q: How do you feel when you find something hard?  

A: Frustrated. But I keep trying.

Q: Say out loud “I can achieve anything.” How did that make you feel? 

A: I dunno, like I can achieve anything.

 

Child aged 7, female

Q: How confident do you feel? Very! As I have people with me.

A: What do you do when you’re feeling sad? Tell mummy and daddy or my teacher.

Q: How do you feel when you find something hard?

A: Frustrated – of course as i can’t do it and it might be too hard for me.

Q: Say out loud “I can achieve anything.” How did that make you feel?

A: Embarrassed.

 

Child aged 9, female

Q: How confident do you feel?

A: It depends where I am and if I’m with mum and dad.

Q: What do you do when you’re feeling sad?

A: I go talk to mum or sometimes I cry in my room and mum comes to find me.

Q: How do you feel when you find something hard?

A: Angry and frustrated. I normally storm off or cry.

Q: Say out loud “I can achieve anything.” How did that make you feel?

A: It made me feel sad because I haven’t achieved what I want to and, happy because I know that I can achieve it if I try.

 

 

Final thoughts

The power of positive statements really showed in this interview. 4 out of 5 children felt a positive feeling after saying the statement out loud and only 1 felt embarrassed. Positive statements are proven to work on a subconscious level taking the message we have said straight to the mind. They are a great way to form new beliefs about ourselves. By encouraging our children to start using positive statements about themselves from an early age they will create more positive beliefs about themselves. To get access to the Cheerful Children Resource Library including a section on Positive Statements click here.

 

Based on these answers the resilience of the children decreased as they got older. Without the 4 and 5 year olds enjoying a challenge and the 7 and 9 year olds all saying they get frustrated. Developing a growth mindset will help a child with resilience and work towards enjoying challenge again and even wanting to challenge themselves. This is a process but can be done with consistent work on developing confidence and a growth mindset in your children.

Read: Fixed vs. Growth

 

Ask your children these child mindset interview questions and see what their answers are. Feel free to comment their answers below in the comments. If you feel they would benefit from understanding more about their feelings and how they can develop a growth mindset and build confidence the Cheerful Children Resource Library has over 200 resources ready and waiting for you to login. Click here to join now.

 

Click here to read how 5 children feel about their mindset

 

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